he was the nicest most considerate guy i had ever met but things began to change he started to control everything i was told how to behave how to speak who i could speak to and what i could wear i even lost control over my finances i didn't feel safe anyway and it felt impossible to tell anyone about my situation he raped me hit me and tried to kill me i felt so trapped imprisoned helpless i was alone and in pain and needed help i just wanted to be free and feel empowered again i reached out for help and the refuge had a room ready for me and my children i've never looked back since one woman in four in the uk will experience domestic abuse at some point in her lifetime financial abuse occurs in 99 of domestic violence cases 20 percent of women experience sexual assault since age 16. domestic abuse can happen to anyone it's never your fault you