[Music] i would describe loneliness as the lack of connection between myself and other people it's really not feeling like you belonged or feeling like you can't really talk to anyone i didn't realize i was feeling it at first but then i realized all of my friends were starting to fade away at the age that i was a lot of my friends didn't have a baby people stop asking you to do things and then eventually they just disappear my mum has multiple sclerosis and i've been a young carer first since i was about 15. i had to grow up quite quickly you just don't know what to do you don't know what the next step should be you've got to find a way to motivate yourself and break the cycle that inhibits you from connecting with people [Music] volunteering is my biggest positive thing because i've actually been through it as a young person and as a deaf young person as well and i've had people tell me i've made a difference i've got a climbing wall so i have quite a few friends that i'll go out climbing with you really get to know the other people when you actually put a lot of trust in them and then it feels like somebody's got your back like quite literally when you're up on a rock face i made a lot of friends online through facebook and twitter i get quite conscious about my disability and how people think of me when they first see me people don't see the wheelchair first so we just see my personality first which makes it easier for me to start friendship for me what helped was going to meetings with other care leavers because you might be surprised that you might actually meet your friends there it's gonna be hard but you've got to try and push yourself in order to talk to somebody about it not everyone will understand not everyone will be able to help you but sometimes just sometimes someone will be out there and lend a hand [Music] [Music] you